baileyb8 said:
Well wednesday is the BIG one ,infact this is history prize is it not!!!!All i have to say is im rooting for the high forties and mid thirties picks ...as well as my usual...have to splurge more ! SO i had this discusion with my hubby, I sayed i would be scared with that amount...scared of all the publicity,unknown family,,and strangers all over my door like a fat kid on a smarty(being that ,winning the lottery is to be set and have comfort)i think forty million is going to keep you more busy than usual (mentally)My husband sayed "WEll you can afford to give a miilion away to some people...oh yes ! HE only has 50 close family members close here in town...And trust me..we all have our family members that we know who deserves it or not...that was our chat!I even have family that dismisses us for even buying lotto tickets...do you share with those siblings???? And of cource there is the solution of running away for awhile..wont work for me..lots of money but in this small knit community..my son is in school and hockey and that you just cant run away,not fair to him..so if we were to win....i guess It will be facing the music...and dividing it up fairly.BUt really WHat would you do????? think about it..for the ones that have distant family or alone..they can do what they want..GREAt...i think i would have wars personally,,my husband has 5 older sisters and a brother,and tons of aunt and uncles and cousins IM SCARED>>>LOL, i have no family here personally!but see ,,,i have a headache all ready thinking of this..lol it has been the big topic here all day!!so i kinda wanted to hear others input on this big lotto..if its number statistics or,,what you would do?or replying to this post....tell me...and hope none of you are one of my inlaws spying on me.....lol
First of all, I hope that more than one person wins such a big jackpot for a change. That would be nice for a change! Say 3 or 4 people.
If it were an ordinary jackpot, I would probably not tell anyone, at least at first. I would just share the information with my husband and make him swear to secrecy.
Then I fantasize that we would take a long vacation to to consider our options while sipping margaritas on a sunny, warm beach with white sands and gentle, fragrant breezes... just to get perspective...
(Ok, that's mabye workable for a regular JP.)
If this historic jackpot is won by more than one person, you can probably finagle out of being in the limelight and let the other winner(s) take all the fame and exposure. (That would be a relief.) Who knows, the other winner(s) might be glad to get their 15 minutes of fame?
Otherwise, it's true, the historic jackpot will certainly change your life...
First thing, I would seek support and counselling, psychological, financial, legal, etc. I would also try to adopt a get tough attitude. Your son comes first but don't spoil him too much! 2nd, I assume you have a good relationship with your husband and trust him, but start to be more self-assertive. Afterall, if it was YOUR numbers that won the jackpot, YOU are more entitled to have your say about what happens to the money. Get legal and financial advice but don't listen to every slick, fast talking fincancial investment planner. You will have more than enough to invest consertively.
Search your heart to find out what's most important in life to YOU.
All your husband's relatives will have to cow tow and prove their worthiness to you! If you are pressured, show them the door!
This would be a good opportunity to find yourself as a strong, assertive person who can stand up to all the interpersonal challenges. Just because they are related to your husband doesn't mean they have any claim over you. A possible solution that hopefully wouldn't affect trust and good relations with your husband, divide the money in half at the outset with your husband, make it legal and binding, to prevent ongoing hassles for the rest of your life and tell your husband if HE wants to or feels it's important to share with his family, that's up to him, and he can do it out of his portion. & Why should you feel obligated to HIS family? With 40 million (or even 20 mil) to back you up, you should have lots of new found respect and clout in the community and amongst his family! Final advice: Set... boundaries....
Don't worry and the best of luck to you!
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